Society today focuses almost purely on perfection, we don’t take things as they come nowadays, and we’re always looking to adapt, change and reinvent things to perfect them. What is perfection, why is it so valued, and who says what perfection is? Fashion isn’t about perfection within trends, if it was we’d all look the same, to me it’s about refinement in personal expression of self. Software and apps such as Photoshop make it easy to create a false image of ourselves without having to go under the knife. Girls as young as 13 are editing their bodies on these programmes to create an image they have been socialised to believe is perfect and beautiful.
Granted I’m in no way at peace with my body, a recent breakup knocked my confidence and I feel its time I learned to love myself no matter what shape or size I am. I’m neither fat nor skinny, I have curves and I’ve come to realise that it’s physically impossible for me to exercise my way to a thigh gap; the only option I’d have would be liposuction, which frankly I can’t afford with my current wages and expense of a car (and would not undergo otherwise. So this year, for me, is about making peace with my body, and instead of trying to look like the model that graces the cover of vogue instead work at realising what I have and learn to love it. By no means did I have an easy childhood with the way I look, constantly ridiculed for my fiery locks that flow past my shoulders I always saw fault in myself. However after coming to peace and loving the colour hair I was graced with, naturally I found fault in the rest of my body.
So I’m now on a mission to compare myself less to others and only to the perfection I can healthily achieve with my own shape and size. It’s important for people to realise that everyone is a different shape and each is as perfect as the next. Not everyone finds skinny and muscly attractive. As they say looks aren’t everything and as bullshit as that sounds, because initial physical attraction is important, personality generally overrules image when it comes to relationships, I mean come on…who’s going to want to stay in a relationship just because the other person is hot!?
Therefore I’m jumping on the band wagon and helping to spread the body peace message whilst embarking on the journey of self-peace myself!
